Slowing down on my posts recently because I said everything all at one time and stopped having things to say!
My post today is about dealing with anxiety. I won’t go too much into detail, but here are some things I think are important to know.
1. Having anxieties are normal. They really are, everyone has them and everyone has different ones at different intensities. It’s really important to know this because if you suffer with some sort of anxiety and you think you know exactly what it’s like to have anxiety, then you are wrong. See, you may suffer with a panic attack disorder, which means you can’t breathe, need time to sit, feel like you’re dying and that the world is crumbling down around you. The person next to you though is suffering with OCD (which also has unique and different tendencies), where they either feel like everything needs to be clean, they themselves need to be clean, everything needs to have a place, so on and so forth. As I said, different. That being said, if you do have some sort of anxiety and someone is trying to help you deal with it by using their experiences, it is pretty important to listen to them. They may have something that will work for you too and although they may not understand completely what you are going through, they have definitely felt similar.
2. Be patient. If you have a friend with anxiety or depression it’s important you are there when they need you and you are patient. They may do things you don’t understand. For example, they may have a job that involves talking to people all day, but when you invite them out they say no because of their social anxiety. This isn’t them making up excuses. Try to understand why exactly they don’t want to go and work with it. If you really are their friend, you will figure out a way to hang or be social with them, in a way they feel comfortable.
3. Be proud. Tell your friend that you are amazed at how far they’ve come, encourage them and be connected with them. I have a great friend that does this for me a lot. She recognises the stuff I’ve achieved and congratulates me in a way that encourages me to continue.
4. Its not attention seeking. These anxieties are not attention seeking. Although some may bring attention to themselves while it is happening, it definitely does not benefit the person involved to be noticed doing what they are doing. I do not find comfort in people coddling me when I am having a panic attack. I am hyperventilating unattractively, turning pale and crying. Gross.
5. This is not a one time thing. We also won’t grow out of it (I’m sure there are some cases where they do). This goes for those with them or trying to help someone with them. Unfortunately it doesnt go away overnight. We have to live with it everyday. So if you are one of those people who comment saying “oh gosh, not again” then please kindly step out of our lives. Remember, this isnt a choice.
I hope this post comes in handy for you and helps you realize, you are not alone.
Peace out, yo.